Health column: Not letting multiple scleroris define me

By Mary Occhino

(This column first appeared on Syfy.com as part of the “Mary Knows Best”  reality series web page.)

What I’m about to tell many of my new friends and viewers may come as a complete shock to some of you because when you see me on TV you see a woman who doesn’t stay still and is less than quiet. But to others who have already read one of my three books (which in all of my books I discuss how my medical condition actually enhanced my psychic ability) are very aware that I’ve had my share of health problems and concerns.

What health problems am I speaking of? Or I should say, what health problem did the universe see fit to gift me with in order to teach me life lessons I was ignoring prior to my diagnosis? My friends, I have and live with Multiple Sclerosis.

I was diagnosed with MS in 1992 and was housebound for close to 8 years and was totally disabled. So much so that I was deemed unable to work by the Social Security Administration and was told I would be disabled for the rest of my life. Boy, did I prove everyone wrong and in a big way!

Just how did I overcome MS? The first step was by never allowing anyone including myself to allow MS define who Mary Occhino is. The second step was by never giving up on a healthier future. And most importantly, by listening to my body and firing any doctor who wouldn’t listen to me when I said what I was feeling!

I overcame what most of my friends and family believed would be a life behind the four walls of my home by listening to my intuition. An intuition that told me what was good for me to eat and what wasn’t.

I overcame my fear of not being able to stand longer than 2 minutes at a time, by meditation along with conventional medication as well as homeopathic meds. And most importantly I sought out the best doctor I could find, (which doesn’t always mean the most expensive!)

But, in order to get back the independent life I once knew and allow the remedies, which the doctors had ordered for me to work, I first had to own the person I wanted to be again. I had to see myself healthy again and believe that there would be a tomorrow where I would be able to live an unassisted life again.

I visualized a tomorrow where I would be able to walk again and most importantly a tomorrow where people didn’t look at me with sadness and sorrow for my confinement.

So, for those of you who take your good health for granted …as you read this column whisper to yourself and to the universe, “thank you!”

For those of you who may have a chronic ailment presently and feel as though your life can never be better than it is today … wash that thought away from your mind immediately and in its place see and own these words:

“What you see you shall become!”

Because if you can’t see you well, you won’t be! And if you’re like I was: sick and tired of being sick and tired! Then work your backside off by first listening to your body and finding the best doctors who will listen to your symptoms, complaints and don’t take NO as an answer from anyone ever if they tell you there’s no hope for the future, because where there is life there is hope. And where’s there’s hope, you too can overcome any obstacle.

I wish you good health and the wisdom to be grateful for it! Many blessings and I’m still counting my blessings every day!

Mary Occhino … I may have MS but MS doesn’t have me!



18 Responses to “Health column: Not letting multiple scleroris define me”

  1. Valerie August 6, 2010 3:50 pm #

    INSPIRING article, Mary! You are truely blessed with many gifts. Thank you for all you do to help me and everyone else. You are a selfless person who gives to others everyday, all day. God Bless You!
    Love you,
    Valerie from NJ

  2. smittenbybritain August 6, 2010 10:27 pm #

    Very well said. What we think, we become.

  3. Rose Goodloe August 7, 2010 3:44 pm #

    Wow, Mary, that’s powerful stuff. I thought you were great before, and one of the most supportive mothers I have ever been exposed to, but now that I know your health story, I’m even more impressed. You truly are a gift to all of us. Love your show!

  4. Cyndi August 7, 2010 5:29 pm #

    Wow, this is amazing. My mother had MS and died from complications of it, as did her mother. I’ve always wondered if it was just a ticking time bomb in me. You give me hope and inspiration.

  5. Mary Ann August 10, 2010 7:21 pm #

    Well said, Mary. Thanks for your inspiration.

  6. Emma August 12, 2010 10:31 am #

    I am so happy to hear your validation of wellness! I am grateful you found doctors to help you and listen to you and didn’t give up. This gives us all hope as you are a walking testimony! You are a angel!

  7. Nancy August 12, 2010 9:06 pm #

    Wow, the power of the mind! I too have MS and refuse to allow it to take over my life. I also said I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. I admire your strength and determination. When one is faced with serious medical issues, you are truely thankful for every day.

  8. Valerie from CA August 16, 2010 12:44 am #

    Oh my goodness. Am I reading too much into this. I have had some health issues, and the Dr’s cannot figure out what is wrong with me (My sister who has MS, keeps telling me she thinks I have it also) but the Dr’s say I dont meet all the criteria so they wont order an MRI. Anyways, this is my first time on this website, and as i was looking at your page i said to myself I wish I could ask her about my health problems. I look over and I see this article on MS I read it and noticed at the top it was written on the my brothers birthday who has passed over. The first persons name under the comments section, was Valerie ( my name). Please tell me Im just losing my mind, because there is no way anyone can read your mind over a computer. Love your show Mary!!!

  9. Maire Torres August 26, 2010 5:32 am #

    Excellent read, I must say. You’ve researched the topic very well 🙂

  10. Gina Manson September 1, 2010 4:18 pm #

    Hi Mary! Wow I have been listening to you since May 2010 and I am amazed not only by your talents as a psychic but your ability to connect as a really cool person. I work as a behavior therapist and specialize in working with people with Intellectual Disabilities. I am working with a woman who is 30 whose mom has been living with MS for at least the last 15 years. Mom is getting significantly worse and the doctors believe she may soon be paralyzed from the fluid in her spine. She has already lost the vision in her right eye and will, according to doctors, lose the vision in her left eye. Dad is a fire fighter in Phila and having a very difficult time. Chrissy who I see as her therapist is extremely upset. Mom, Pat, seems to have resided herself to the fact she will die and is trying to prepare for her husband and disabled child. I know you no longer do readings by email. Just wondering if you can send me some names of docs- we are in the Phila area. Or homeopathic remedies that you mention so I can pass them on. Just want to try to give this family some hope. Thanks so much Mary for all that you do. I hope one day we can meet. Rock and roll!! Gina Manson

  11. Amber from NJ September 3, 2010 9:42 am #

    Mary you are truly an inspiration! I have my own health issues, but reading your words are giving me courage to face up to the issues and take charge of my health! Thank you for being such a wonderful person to everyone! I love listening to you on the radio when I get a chance, and I am learning a lot from your books, about myself. Thank you again for that!

    And to reply to Valerie from CA, it sounds like you experienced some synchronicities there, regarding your questions about MS: 1. You just happened to find this website, and Mary’s column regarding her MS, while looking for answers for your own health, 2. Seeing your brother’s birthdate at the beginning of the column, and 3. Seeing the first commenter had the same first name as you. In my opinion, just from what I am learning regarding synchronicities from listening to Mary and reading her books, I would say that’s your sign to maybe find another doctor, or demand the MRI, if anything, for peace of mind that there isn’t anything wrong, or to determine if in fact there is something there, rather than finding out later down the road. Anyway, that’s just my opinion. I wish you well and hope everything turns out okay, no matter the outcome! 🙂

  12. financial aid for college September 25, 2010 4:53 pm #

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  13. Janne Marrisrgd November 13, 2010 9:59 am #

    Mistakes are a part of being human. Appreciate your mistakes for what they are: precious life lessons that can only be learned the hard way. Unless it’s a fatal mistake, which, at least, others can learn from.

  14. Rob White November 18, 2010 12:16 am #

    I don’t even know how I ended up here, but I thought this post was interesting. Cheers!

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  16. Sandi November 27, 2010 11:38 pm #

    Mary,
    I, too, have MS. I was diagnosed in 2001. You won’t be surprised to know that it was my deceased birth mother, who came to me in a dream and told me I had the MS.
    When I was hospitalized 6 months later I checked back over my diary for other possible symptoms. There was the entry in which I wrote down the dream. I’d long since forgotten it.
    That entry (and an open-minded family dr with a certificate in women’s spirituality) were all I needed to get an appointment with the best Neuro in the area. He diagnosed an issue I’d lived with for 20 years.
    Like you, I’ve noticed an increase in the intuitive gifts I’ve had since childhood. I believe the MS has had something to do with it. Either way, the MS kicks my butt some days but I consider it a gift.
    Many blessings on your ministry Mary!!

  17. Angela Corry December 14, 2010 1:32 pm #

    The site was done by Mary’s son Carl.

  18. Shechinah February 27, 2011 10:02 am #

    I was feeling pretty low today and connected with my deceased husband. I let him know, as I cried, what the problem was. I said, “I don’t know what I am doing.” I have multiple health issues, and have so many blessings, but I put a lot of pressure on myself to control things and keep things running smoothly. Lately, I have felt overwhelmed with so many decisions I have had to make. Feeling lost, I started searching for help~I happened to be at my computer. One of my illnesses is MS. So I immediately became interested in Mary O’s article. I read veraciously~esp. hearing about the 8 years. Then I came upon these words, “What you see you shall become.” My attitude immediately shifted. I started feeling better and stronger. Stronger. I printed the words out and placed them on a bookshelf in front of me. I know what I need to do this morning now. Mary O’ thank you for helping me out. Also about the Doctor thing~that had been on my mind.

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